We all play a role in society and not everyone is going to agree with that role. Our peers teach us what the typically accepted norms are through praise and disapproval. In a way, this gives us a preconceived notion of who you are supposed to be, how you are supposed to act, and what you’re supposed to say and sometimes, even feel.
Sex depends on what reproductive organs you are born with. Gender depends on where you take that – how you act; whether it’s feminine, or masculine. I guess this goes to show that gender is built (Silverman and Rader 428). Some guys consider themselves in between: metrosexual. According to the Encarta Dictionary, a metrosexual is, “a young, straight, sensitive urban man who is unashamed to enjoy good clothes, stylish living, the art of decorating, and improving his personal appearance.” Wow! I guess those are the guys who put tons of gel in their hair with the little “swoopy wave” thing they have going on at the top that people mistake for gay. External elements determine a lot of how someone views themselves and how others view them (Silverman and Rader 429).
It is almost as though gender is based on majority rule. Most women wear dresses and make-up so if a man wear a dress or make-up, he would like to be portrayed as a female. In digression, this sort of relates to stereotypes. If a white male (Eminem) sags his pants and raps then he wants to be portrayed as a black male. What makes this a stereotype is that not all black males sag their pants and not all of them rap. Not all men wear dresses and not all women do. I saw a photo that was very stereotypical of male and females. Click here to see!!! —> http://www.lgbtsewisc.org/yahoo_site_admin/assets/images/gender1.31481835_std.gif
At some point in time, people disregard what others say and do what feels comfortable. And overall, that’s what gender is: feeling comfortable in your own skin. Let the little boy play with Barbie’s if he wants to. One day he might put them down and pick up a truck. Free will to be who you want to be in a world that isn’t always accepting of that.
Quote of the day:
“As far as I’m concerned, being any gender is a drag.” -Patti Smith
Lori E. Allan
Female on both accounts