I think one of the most apparent themes in this book was that of family, and the dynamics of. Not only did it talk about how Cal’s family history affected him, or how his raising by his family had its outcomes, but the fact that family is ALWAYS there. When Desdemona and Lefty first came to America, it was with Family that they stayed. And of course, they were family themselves. And even when Cal did a horrible thing, running away and worrying his parents to death, Tessie was still there with open arms, waiting to accept whatever it was the Cal chose. Chapter Eleven too. Desdemona herself, although feeling guilty, was accepting of Cal. It all comes down to the love of a family. Tessie thought it was her ” … spiritual conection…” ( Eugenides 463 ) that kept her conected to Cal through those months, a spiritual umbilical cord that kept her in constant connection to Cal, letting her know that Cal was still alive. I think it was her love that kept them connected. And it was love that kept their family together through such a hard time. Most people would fall apart through half of what these people went through. But love is miraculous. It can heal all wounds, mend all breaks, and hold people together like the strongest glue. Family is a very uplifting theme in this book, and so is the love of a family.